The Other Half by Bond Touch
It isn’t easy for us LGBTQ+ Africans to come out. So why did I react so poorly when an old friend came out too?
‘Did I tell you that I'm bisexual?’ A text I received from an old high school friend read. My reaction was not the best, I sent through a laughing emoji...
Are we chasing happiness in all the wrong places?
A hard lesson from neuropsychology and the pandemic into improving how we feel and how chasing happiness really works. Like many of us, I grew up having a pretty straightforward...
My Parents Like Me Better When I’m Gay
I often joke that I have “good parent privilege.” Growing up, my catholic, conservative parents provided everything I could ever need: finances, a good education, therapy. Even as an adult,...
Me, Myself & Pride: An Inclusive campaign
As we're writing this, it's August. That means that you might only be reading this in September. You might ask yourself, why are we talking about Pride in SEPTEMBER? To...
The first queer book festival: proud, diverse and original
“I always forgot who brought it up first, but one of us brought up the fact that we both want to do a queer book festival. It’s weird that there’s...
Love At First Page: loving books helped our love survive
The moment he mentioned loving books on our first date, I knew we were going to be together for a long time. And when he told me to come back...
The Freedom of a Borderless Friendship
Distance is a familiar word to me. Surprisingly, it can go together with friendship. That’s why believe in borderless friendships: I have never been afraid of kilometers separating people. And...
Ring of Fear: a coming out journey
Coming out of the closet can be difficult. Some of us even repress a lot of emotions, live a lie, or even live a double life (and I don’t mean...
Emotional intimacy in a time of physical distancing
2021, the year that sorely lacked in human connection, was brightened by innovative technologies meant to draw emotional intimacy in a time of physical distancing. As a physically disabled woman,...
Dear Toxic Crush: an open letter to the boyfriends I never had.
I used to enjoy romanticizing those around me. All it took was a single glimpse, catching someone’s eye, and I would feel connected. Bonded with your universe. I would create...
If Your Relationship Feels Boring, That Doesn’t Mean It’s Not Working
There’s one not-so-sexy fact about relationships that no one seems to talk about: eventually, it’s bound to get boring. If you think about it, you’ll inevitably feel comfortable with someone...
“Who wears the pants?” Breaking gender roles in same-sex relationships
The embodiment of gender roles in same-sex couples can be traced back to the age-old idea that a relationship should be between a man and a woman. But in a world where words like "man" and "woman" are giving way to fluidity, how does this polarization of what's expected from certain genders extend to our relationships?
